Respect and Manners are our common bonds as civilized people. Please see
www.janpolk.com for information on Respect Awards for children, teenagers, and adults. This project is sponsored by artist Jan Polk.
1. The first rule of etiquette is the Golden Rule: Treat other people the way you want to be treated, with kindness and respect.
2. After you have mastered the Golden Rule, move up to the Platinum Rule: Treat other people the way they want to be treated. Not everyone wants to be treated the same way. They give hints, and we need to pay attention.
3. Unfortunately, it is bad manners to go around correcting other people's bad manners. There is an exception for parents, teachers, and managers, and then it's more than an exception--it's an obligation for them to correct the manners of children, students, and employees.
4. The difference between etiquette and manners is this: Etiquette (a French word) refers to all the rules governing behavior. Manners (an English word) refers to your own personal behavior.
5. Some people know all the rules of etiquette, but don't follow them. They will still have bad manners. Others may never have heard of etiquette books but have innate good manners, naturally treating all people with courtesy.
6. A knowledge of etiquette is the road to good manners. Behave decently to others, show consideration when there is conflict, and maintain composure when displeased. Knowing etiquette makes you feel relaxed and confident.
